There’s no right or wrong time to start preparing for the 11+ because every child’s needs are unique.
However, I believe there’s more to be gained from the preparation process that simply being taught exam skills and techniques.
If thoughts of the 11+ make you want to reach for a vodka and tonic then read on...
It may be worth remembering that whilst world class tennis players pay attention to their competitor’s game, they are 100% psychologically focused on their own journey.
Resisting the urge to compare your child to another child by focusing on what matters most – your child, is a good place to start.
As a parent, feeling confident can be a great way to combat feelings of emotional intensity and anxiety, which will have positive effects on your child’s mood and motivation and in turn their performance.
After a decade of hard-won successes, I’ve learned that in London, parental stress, often underpinned by doubt, is fuelled by a competitive culture of secrecy and high anxiety. You are the only person who can stop the 11+ syndrome in its track, before it gets the better of you..
Staying clear of this mental fog is a wise decision, which will strengthen your own sanity and your child’s progress. By focusing on your child, you’ll avoid falling prey to a myriad of unhelpful feelings, which quite frankly you can do without!
I wonder how many parents consider how well their child will cope in senior school after the cushioning of intensive tutoring?
These qualities are priceless because they are long lasting and will open up doors of varied opportunities, waiting to be taken.
Will your child dare to say yes to a golden opportunity?
Later on in the year I’ll be delivering an English 11+ Series, giving practical advice to families to help children succeed.
Posted on January 14th 2022